“I mean clearly they haven’t written 2012’s version of war and peace but if you have a long commute/flight or whatever it will help pass the time pretty quickly.”—This Amazon review of our book pretty much sums it up.
B/f's mom is not only in touch with, but is really good friends w/an ex-g/f of his, whom I know is still in love w/him & has made it clear that she'd love to get back together w/him. His mom is well aware of this & it's been made clear to b/f's mom that this makes me feel highly uncomfortable. She apparently doesn't give a fuck & has continued this friendship w/chick. So I've stopped all interactions with her. Anything else I should/could do? B/f is bummed out about me cutting out his mom.
His mom’s weird, and you are probably right that they’re conspiring against you . We understand your wariness. But, you can’t cut out a dude’s mom entirely if you want to be with him for any sustained amount of time. Gotta at least do Christmas.
As a slightly effeminate gay man, how can I exist in our gay culture that so highly promotes masculinity? Rich, do you find effeminate guys less attractive? Why or why not? What do you think about this issue in the gay community?
I think femmephobia is mostly about internalized homophobia. I would say that I’m generally in the company of guys who are on the more masculine side (but not cartoonishly so), but there are plenty of effeminate guys who are totally hot and great in bed.
(Tracie says this only goes for gays ‘cause girls don’t like that.)
I think the way you exist in any culture is just by being a kind, positive, hopefully smart part of it while being yourself. It’s a rainbow. There are stripes.
My roommate invited his boyfriend to live with us a few months ago. He owns the house and I rent a spare bedroom. Recently, his boyfriend's mother has been staying the night in the spare bedroom a couple times a week for no apparent reason. Should I say something or just move out? It's kinda weird, right?
Definitely weird, but probably not your place to complain. If she is insufferable, your only option is to move out.
I'm 24 and have done everything I felt I was supposed to until now: went to college, got a Master's degree, and became qualified for a "real" job. But I just got dumped again (by someone I didn't even love) and am wondering how and where I will ever meet someone. Is it too late for me?
It’s not too late for you. You are 24. You’ll be fine.
Last night my roommate and I were getting plastered and she accidentally shit on the floor. I don't want to be a dick but how do I bring this up in conversation? There is a huge stain in the middle of the carpet and it needs to be cleaned before we move out otherwise we loose our security deposit. I'm trying to avoid telling her to "clean her shit up"
We think that, “Clean your shit up,” is really the best thing to say.
Help! I dropped out of college a year ago and moved back home. All my friends from high school are off at far-away colleges, and I'm basically alone. All my co-workers are my mom's age, and I don't want to hang out with high schoolers. How do I meet people my age if I'm not in college?
Our advice is go back to school.
Or go to a bar. Just get out and meet people.
(Tracie thinks you should just go back to school and shouldn’t have left in the first place and this is what happens when you don’t study.)
I dated a married guy who then cheated on me once we were officially together. It's shitty and stereotypical, but I'm having a hard time getting over it. I feel terrible about the entire relationship. Advice?
Gay guy here. I just moved to a new, bigger city and was excited about the greater opportunities for dating. I've gone on a couple of dates and I thought I was looking for a boyfriend but I'm not even sure what I want any more. How do I figure that out?
Go hard* until you find a boyfriend and then when you do, stop.